Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Sex, Sex, And More Sex

***WARNING*** This lesson contains some sexual references. Although I have tried to avoid gratuitous sexual content, I recommend parents of young children read it before sharing it with your children. However, I do hope you will find it largely appropriate to share with your children.

Introduction

            The latest furor this week in our culture is over the practically-pornographic dance/music performance of a young celebrity, Miley Cyrus, at the annual Video Music Awards (VMA). Not too many years ago, Cyrus played the wholesome character of Hannah Montana for Disney on a children’s television program by the same name. Fans have watched, many in shock and amazement, as this popular children’s star has gone from Disney G-rated family star to VMA, practically X-rated porn star in a few short years. With the transformation, you might think her popularity would diminish but you’d be wrong—Cyrus is wildly popular now. She may be losing or has lost her original audience of Disney-watchers but she has clearly attracted the attention of the majority culture who seem to have a clear disdain for anything wholesome. I observed the reaction of various media figures with amusement as they flailed wildly trying to explain Cyrus’ transformation and behavior. Really? Have these people bothered looking around the culture lately? It seems clear that the critics of Cyrus see the trees but are blind to the forest. I’m not making excuses for Cyrus but let’s not be naïve shall we—Cyrus is just one person in a long line of representatives of a crude culture that is all about Sex, Sex And More Sex isn’t she? Let me see if I can give you some examples: A 2000 study revealed that 10 percent of students in grades k-12 have had sexual contact in some form with a teacher, with the largest percentage between teachers and upperclassmen; I’m sure it hasn’t gotten any worse in the decade since that study {read: sarcasm}. There is a very successful website for “sugar-babies” that makes arrangements for women to be in sexual relationships with wealthy men (married and unmarried) in order to supplement their income—the site boasts an enrollment of 40,000 teachers as well as other “respected” professionals. An on-line service has been established for the sole purpose of arranging discreet sexual relationships between men and women who are married to someone else but long for sex outside their own marriage relationship—the site boasts a membership of over 1,000,000 participants; the founder claims it is a way to avoid divorce and keep families intact—how thoughtful! {read: sarcasm again}. And if these sites seem too complicated or nefarious, there is an on-line service that cuts right to the chase and creates a database matching people who make no pretense about their intentions—they are looking for compatible partners to share free sex and nothing else.

Let me ask you, when was the last time you saw a movie or television program that had no sexual content? How about depicting sex only between a husband and wife? Ok now, how about a movie or television program that included sex outside of marriage; casual sex? And that goes for music and music videos as well! I could go on but you probably get my point—our culture is obsessed with Sex, Sex And More Sex. People were shocked this week when Miley Cyrus performed her might-as-well-be-porn dance and music number at the Video Music Awards but it won’t be long before the bar for sexual morality in our country is lowered another notch making her performance part of the new normal. What really puzzles me is how this is possible in a country where the majority of the population claims to be Christian! Something doesn’t add up. I’m going to give Christians the benefit of the doubt that they are just ignorant on the matter so perhaps it is time we are reminded what the Bible says about sexual morality or more specifically sexual immorality.

Subject Text

1 Corinthians 6:12-20
            12Everything is permissible for me”--but not everything is beneficial.Everything is permissible for me”--but I will not be mastered by anything. 13Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”--but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. 18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Context

            Corinth is located about 50 miles from Athens and around two miles from the narrow isthmus that forms a land bridge between Greece and the Peloponnesus. Because of its geographical location, Corinth controlled two major harbors and ruled the trade routes between Asia and Rome.

            Corinth catered to the gods of Egypt, Rome and Greece. The Temple of Aphrodite, the goddess of love, was in Corinth. Even though the actual temple was not active during Paul’s time, prostitution flourished in the city below where the temple once served as the center for prostitution. As you might imagine, Corinth catered to sailors and merchants from around the world. Even before Paul’s time, Corinth had an awful reputation. Aphrodite’s temple gave Corinth its reputation of overt immorality referenced by Paul (1 Cor 6:9-20; 2 Cor 12:20-21) “She had a reputation for commercial prosperity, but she was also a byword for evil living. The very word korinthiazesthai [Gk], to live like a Corinthian, had become a part of the Greek language, and meant to live with drunken and immoral debauchery…Aelian, the late Greek writer, tells us that if ever a Corinthian was shown upon the stage in a Greek play he was shown drunk. The very name Corinth was synonymous with debauchery and there was one source of evil in the city which was known all over the civilized world. Above the isthmus towered the hill of the Acropolis, and on it stood the great temple of Aphrodite, the goddess of love. To that temple there were attached one thousand priestesses who were sacred prostitutes, and in the evenings they descended from the Acropolis and plied their trade upon the streets of Corinth, until it became a Greek proverb, ‘It is not every man who can afford a journey to Corinth.’ In addition to these cruder sins, there flourished far more recondite vices, which had come in with the traders and sailors from the ends of the earth, until Corinth became not only a synonym for wealth and luxury, drunkenness and debauchery, but also for filth.”[1] “Immoral debauchery” as referenced above finds it specific meaning in the city’s thriving sex trade. Its reputation preceded Paul’s letter by more than four centuries going back to the Greek poet Aristophanes who was the first to coin the word “Corinthianize” [Gk. korinthiazesthai]. Pre-marital sex, extra-marital sex, prostitution and homosexuality were prized practices in first-century Corinth. When the sexual practices where questioned or criticized, the response was often: “What is foul, if it seems not so to those who indulge in it?” (Athenaeus Deipnosophists 13.582d). Fast forward more than 2,000 years and you know what has changed? Nothing! Consequently, if the context that precipitated Paul’s teaching is quantitatively and qualitatively comparable to our culture then its relevance for us should be obvious.

Text Analysis

            It appears that some in the Church in Corinth took their new-found freedom in Christ to extremes claiming that “everything was permissible” because Christ removed all sin so they were now free to live however they wanted. Theological historians believe that this was “probably a slogan bandied about among some of the Christians in Corinth and used…to justify an indiscriminate exercise of their rights.”[2] My gosh, isn’t this the message that is preached from the pulpits of so many of our churches today? Not that we are explicitly free to live however we want because Christ has removed all sin but implicitly because no one has the right to hold a fellow Christian accountable for their sinful behavior because we all live under God’s grace so no one has the right to “judge” anyone else. Can we please, please stop pretending that we don’t know what’s going on here? Countless people use “grace” as the excuse to do whatever they want with impunity. However, Paul makes it clear that even if something is permitted, that doesn’t make it beneficial. Paul goes on to say something profound in v. 12 that even if he were to stipulate that “everything is permissible,” he refuses to be “mastered” by anything. With all of Paul’s instruction about sexuality in the succeeding verses, this is a message we will come back to as the statement of accountability for our actions. Are we being “mastered” by sexual immorality?

            Paul is not introducing a new dietary code in v. 13. Instead, he is trying to make a point that God has granted us certain things for our benefit; a stomach to hold and digest food and food to ingest for daily survival; they are meant to exist in harmony with each other; both fall under God’s sovereignty and both have a specific purpose. The abuse of food (and/or drink) can lead to the destruction of the stomach and the destruction of the stomach directly impacts our ability to process food necessary for our survival. However, Paul makes clear that both are passing, temporal elements. Paul then makes a similar correlation between our bodies and the Lord. Just as the harmony between food and the stomach can be destroyed by abusing food and drink, the harmony between our bodies and the Lord can be destroyed through “sexual immorality.” However, what Paul implies in v. 13 he will make explicit in succeeding verses—the degradation and destruction of our bodies through sexual immorality has eternal implications. “The nutritive system forms no part of the permanent self; it belongs to the passing, to the constitution of ‘flesh and blood’ and hence the indifference to foods. ‘But the body’ has relations more vital and influential than those concerned with its perishing sustenance…‘The body’—regarded as a whole, in contrast with its temporary apparatus—is fashioned for the Lord’s use; to yield it to harlotry is to traverse Christ’s rights in it and disqualify oneself for a part in His resurrection.”[3]

            Although that all seems fairly clear, the part that seems less clear is what is meant by “sexual immorality.” And you know as well as I do that humanity is always looking for a loophole to try and justify their sinful behavior. Therefore, I will do my best to try and put some specific parameters around the general term “sexual immorality.” “Sexual immorality” in the NIV is translated from the Greek “porneia” from which we derive our English word “pornography.” Some insist that Paul is specifically talking about prostitution in our subject text and that is certainly part of what he is talking about. However, porneia is a general term that includes not just prostitution (male and female), but also incest, adultery and other extramarital sexual activity. Porneia is specifically defined as “Illicit sex, fornication [consensual sex between two people not married to each other or anyone else], sexual immorality, prostitution.”[4] Homosexuality is also condemned as sexually immoral but is translated from the Greek arsenokoites meaning “a male who has sexual relations with a male”[5] and is itemized separately in 1 Cor 6:9 as behavior that disqualifies one from participating in the inheritance of God’s kingdom. Let me see if I can simplify this even farther. Sexual immorality includes any and all sexual activity outside of the marriage relationship between one man and one woman.

            When Paul says that God will raise our bodies in the same way that He raised Jesus’ body in v. 14, it seems a bit disconnected unless we consider that the Gnostic heresy was always present in its devaluation of the physical body. Paul’s thoughts and motives never seemed to wander very far from the need to combat Gnosticism. However, this was probably a secondary purpose for v. 14. The primary purpose was to demonstrate how much value God places on our physical bodies. “The work of redemption includes the whole person, which in the Jewish view of things includes the body. If the stomach is irrelevant for future existence, the body itself is not. Through Christ’s own resurrection it has been stamped as belonging to eternity; it is destined for resurrection. Thus it is also ‘for the Lord’ in the present.”[6]

            Those seeking to limit Paul’s teaching in our subject text to prostitution use vv. 15-17 to support their position. However, Paul is simply using prostitution as one example of the relationship between sexual immorality and our bodies vs. our bodies and the Lord, with all other forms of sexual immorality having the same relational effect. Paul reminds us in v. 15 that believers, the Church, form the “body” of Christ. Paul uses this metaphor throughout his writings to illustrate our intimate union with Christ. As such, Paul is saying in v. 16 that we have no business combining our bodies, as a member of the body of Christ, with a prostitute in sexual immorality. Specifically, Paul takes us back to Genesis and God’s proclamation that a man and a woman, in the course of sex become one flesh (Gen 2:24). Similarly, according to Paul in v. 17, when we become believers we are united with Jesus and become one with him in spirit. Since the body and the spirit are a unified whole, when we engage in sexual immorality we are trying to harmonize the perfect holiness of the Holy Spirit with sin and immorality—they are not compatible and cannot coexist. “Paul cites Genesis 2:24 to demonstrate what is involved in the seemingly casual one-night stand with another woman; you become one body with her. It is the peculiar dignity of the one-flesh union of heterosexual marriage, on the other hand, that not only is it quite compatible with spiritual union with the Lord, but also it expresses the mysterion (‘mystery’) of the union between Christ and his church (Eph 5:31-32; 2 Cor 11:2). The analogy covers not merely reciprocal mutual love, respect and care but the union itself. A couple’s becoming ‘one flesh,’ which entails sexual congress whatever else it may entail, is comparable to the bonding between Christ and believers.”[7]

            After having established what we shouldn’t do in the preceding verses, Paul now tells us what we should do in v. 18. I picture Paul contemplating how he could convey his message in a way that reflects its proper emphasis. The word Paul uses is the Greek pheugo which means to flee from, to avoid or to shun. Paul was saying that they should do whatever it takes, no matter how extreme, to purge their lives of sexual immorality. Paul’s point is that sexual immorality reaches a depth in our person that no other sin touches. This makes sense doesn’t it? Within the context of a marriage relationship between a man and woman, is there an intimacy that reaches deeper into our souls than does sexual intimacy. Even many married couples fail to realize the importance of their sexual relationship. This is why Paul instructs those who are married not to withhold sex from their spouse except by mutual consent and then only for a short time (1 Cor 7:3-5). The marriage bond is refreshed and strengthened through a married couple’s sexual relationship. And it can become weak and frayed when sex is abused by either party either through selfish excess or selfish abstinence. Understanding, now, the degree to which sexual relations impact our lives, we might have a deeper appreciation for the danger of sexual immorality. “The immoral person perverts precisely that faculty within himself [and/or herself] that is meant to be the instrument of the most intimate bodily communication between persons. He sins against his unique power of bodily communication and in this sense sins in a particular way ‘against his own body.’ All other sins are in this respect by comparison ‘outside’ the body—with ‘body’ having in this verse the strong sexual overtones that appear to cling to it throughout the passage as a whole. No other sin engages one’s power of bodily personal communication in precisely so intimate a way.”[8]

            One of the things that I have tried to teach my daughters is that when you owe someone anything—money, time, etc.,—you have relinquished part of your freedom to that person. This is similar to the principal that Paul is trying to convey in vv. 19-20. The opportunity for us to follow Christ came at a cost; a price, and that was Jesus’ death on the cross. If we accept the invitation to follow then we are free to be followers but within the boundaries of what it means to be a follower. For a moment, let’s stay with the analogy of marriage since I am fairly familiar with the concept after nearly 30 years. I am free to be myself in my marriage. However, I am not free to behave however I want. I am free to love my wife all I want but I am not free to love another woman. I am free to go to the gym and punch a punching bag but I’m not free to use my wife as a punching bag. I’m free to be as critical as I want about the travails and failures of my favorite sports teams but I’m not free to be as critical as I want about the travails and failures of my wife. This is what it means to be in a relationship with anyone to a certain extent. We are free in those relationships but we are not necessarily free to do whatever we want—that’s not being in a relationship that’s being a selfish, power-mongering dictator! Paul is saying the same thing when it comes to the relationship between our bodies and Christ. When we became followers, we were set free from sin and the Holy Spirit took up residence in our lives. We are free to be in relationship with God thanks to Jesus and with the power and help of the Holy Spirit but we are not free to live our lives in a way that is contrary to how God tells us and expects us to live. “Paul is seen here, however, to have a very high view of the physical body in light of God’s acts on its behalf and the privileges accorded the Christian as he or she lives in this body. God’s investment in the whole person is so great that the only fitting response is for us to live for the Lord with the whole person, to bring honor to God in the way we use our body. To reinforce this, Paul reminds the believers of God’s ultimate ownership of the believer’s body, with the result that the Christian is to use the body as God wishes, not as he or she might wish (i.e., to indulge its desires; 1 Cor 6:19; cf. Gal 5:13, 24). Thus, how we use our body provides us with a wide array of opportunities to honor God, bearing witness to God’s redemption of our body from sin and to enhance our connection with Christ.”[9]

Application

            Do you want to know something ironical about this lesson? I fully anticipate that a significant number of people will access this lesson by accident because of the title as they search for something I’m guessing is far more entertaining than what I’m offering in this lesson or any other lesson. Imagine their surprise disappointment when the search results for some internet fun turns up my site. Do you want to know something less ironic but instead sad and revealing? George Barna conducted a survey comparing behavioral patterns of Christians and non-Christians—the survey revealed that 9% of Christians and 16% of non-Christians watched an X-rated movie within the 3 months preceding the survey.[10] So the sad and revealing thing about those who happen on this lesson in search of something more tantalizing is that a certain percentage of them will be Christians. If you’re feeling pretty good about yourself because you know you’re not one of those 9%, let’s take it to the next level. In the same survey, Barna found that 76% of Christians and 87% of non-Christians watched a PG-13 or R-rated movie at some point during the 3 months preceding the survey. Now I can start hearing some howling out there complaining that there’s nothing wrong with those movies because they’re not X-rated; you would never watch an X-rated movie. Relax, the point of this lesson isn’t about movie ratings specifically. The point of this lesson is the trajectory of our behavior as it relates to sexual ethics. Let me see if I can illustrate: When Elvis Presley hit the music and movie stage in the late 50’s, men tried to imitate his moves, his hair style and his clothing in the hope of being able to make the girls swoon the way Presley did. However, Presley, along with his white, rhinestone-studded pant-suits cut down low to reveal his bare chest covered in gold chains, created no small amount of controversy. Some believed that Presley’s music and waging hips crossed the line of morality because they were sexually suggestive. If you could watch one of Elvis’ concerts in the prime of his career on a split screen with Miley Cyrus’ performance at the VMA’s, I wonder if the phrase “We’ve come a long way baby,” might come to mind. So what’s my point? My point is that bad habits, although easier to develop than good habits, occur over a long time and get worse not better. Also, some of those bad habits are so subtle that we often fail to recognize that they are destroying our lives until it’s too late. This pattern is all too familiar with many of us isn’t it? We sit with the broken pieces of our lives before us and wonder—“How did I get here?” The implication of the question says it all—it wasn’t always like this. We weren’t always angry; we didn’t always drink; we didn’t always use drugs; we didn’t always lie; we didn’t always cheat; we didn’t always steal; we didn’t always use coarse language; we weren’t always obsessed with sex. However, in order to stop traveling along on the same path, we need a clear view of the path to begin with. That way we can avoid that particular path and take a different one. If we are called to “flee from sexual immorality,” we need to be able to recognize as clearly as possible what we are fleeing from.

            I want to challenge you to conduct a personal experiment this week. I’m not asking you to change what you would normally do during a week with the exception of making a note every time that you encounter an instance of sexualization or sexual immorality in the course of your everyday life; music, movies, television programs, videos, internet activity, magazines, etc. The purpose of my challenge is to alert your mind to what you have become desensitized to over a long period of exposure and have simply come to accept as part of your daily life. After a week of re-sensitizing yourself slightly to your daily habits and environment, compare your life to Paul’s instruction to “flee from sexual immorality.” This is a chance for you to honestly examine the habits and environment of your daily life to see if it conforms to the way God wants you to live.
I fully realize that this is a difficult lesson for some of you (probably for all of us to some extent). I know that God’s way would entail some real life-changing decisions. For example, some of you are living with and/or in a sexual relationship with someone you are not married to. You won’t have to look far to find the sexual immorality in your life—just look next to you in bed. Some of you are working in a highly sexualized environment and conformity to God’s way would constitute a very real financial hardship. Some of you believe that flaunting your sexuality is the only way you can be accepted and you fear that following God’s instruction for your life will mean being shunned by your friends and peers. Some of you don’t want to change and I can’t make you and God won’t force you to. Author Marilyn Ferguson once wrote, “No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards the gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.” Change can be a hard thing. However, before we can make changes in our lives, we need to know what we are changing from and why. The “why” is easy and I hope I have outlined those reasons above. The “what,” however, might not be immediately clear. That is the reason for my challenge to you. Unless we recognize that our culture is saturated with Sex, Sex And More Sex we won’t be able to see that we might be living our lives in opposition to God’s good instruction. Let’s remember the first thing Paul said in our subject text—Paul refused to be mastered by anything. So I want to leave you with a final question to think about as you engage in my challenge: Are you being mastered by sexual immorality?



[1] William Barclay, The Letters to the Corinthians, (Lexington, KY: Westminster John Knox Press, 2002), pp. 2-3.
[2] Anthony C. Thiselton, The First Epistle to the Corinthians—The New International Greek Testament Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 2000), p. 461.
[3] W. Robertson Nicoll, ed., The Expositor’s Greek Testament, Vol., 2, (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1983), p. 819.
[4] Cleon L. Rogers Jr. and Cleon L. Rogers III, The New Linguistic and Exegetical Key to the Greek New Testament, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1998), p. 359.
[5] Ibid.
[6] Gordon D. Fee, The First Epistle to the Corinthians—The New International Commentary on the New Testament, (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1987), p. 256.
[7] Gerald F. Hawthorne, Ralph P. Martin, Daniel G. Reid, eds., Dictionary of Paul and his Letters, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), p. 872.
[8] Craig Blomberg, 1 Corinthians—The NIV Application Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1994), p. 127.
[9] David A. deSilva, An Introduction to the New Testament: Contexts, Methods & Ministry Formation, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2004), p. 571.
[10] George Barna, The Second Coming of the Church, (Nashville, TN: Word Publishing, 1998), p. 6.

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