Wednesday, November 28, 2012

We Are At War


Introduction

            We’ve just gone through an extremely contentious election here in America that has left the country quite divided. This is nothing new, of course, when there is a two-party or multiple-party political environment. However, I sensed something very different taking place even before the highly publicized campaign season hit its stride. I sensed that there was a calculated effort to divide the country. Not along the lines of political ideology but along lines where division is unnatural and destructive. Some political leaders along with their political operatives recognized that it was easier to consolidate their power within smaller groups than it was within the larger populous. How was this accomplished? Division! Women were pitted against men with the “war on women” offensive. All non-whites where turned against whites with the liberal use of the “racism” card. The rich, pejoratively described as the “millionaires and billionaires,” were demonized consistently as victimizing the poor by building their wealth on the backs of the poor. Toward the end of the campaign, even children were shamefully used to blame their parents for all the ills of our country. Anyone who wasn’t supportive of the gay-rights agenda and same-sex marriage was labeled a “homophobe.” The elderly were constantly warned that those who were younger believed they were a strain on the financial system and might have to forfeit their social security and medical benefits. Union bosses fanned embers of hatred always present between its unionized constituency and management. And these were just a few of the divisions that were identified and manipulated. Political strategists might look at this and see an effective strategy but I see something deeply troubling and evil. We were not meant to be divided along any of these lines. This is not division based on ideas which might be natural since we are uniquely created individuals. This division is unnatural and evil with the final result being hatred of one another. And who benefits most when people hate each other? Temporally, people seeking power and fame might benefit by peoples’ hatred for one another but ultimately, Satan benefits when humanity is divided and bathed in hatred. We think that our difficulty is with people who have different ideas than we do. But differing ideas doesn’t create hate. As I said before, differing ideas are the result of uniquely created human beings. Instead, We Are At War against the Devil who uses sinful humanity to advance his cause of leading as many people away from God as possible. It is an age-old, yet brilliantly devious, strategy of turning humanity against one another. Hatred and division are the great obstacles to being in relationship with God. One cannot love God yet hate humanity (1 John 4:20; 21). Paul spoke of the unity of the Church in his letter to the church in Ephesus—the unity between all people: husbands and wives; children and parents; masters and slaves (See previous post—Title: The Power of Love and Submission; Label: Pastoral Care; Date: 11/14/12). In the context of Paul’s teaching about unity in his letter to the Ephesians, Paul uses a military illustration to make the point that We Are At War and that is the basis of this week’s lesson.

Subject Text

Ephesians 6:10-18

            10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

Context

            Everything about Paul’s letter to the Ephesians is about unity. The language of unity permeates the entire letter from the very beginning. Paul tells the Ephesians that it is God’s will that all things in heaven and earth are to be brought together under the lordship of Christ (Eph. 1:10); that God has removed the division between Jew and Gentile (Eph. 2:12; 13); that Jews and Gentiles are now members of one body through Christ (Eph. 3:6); that God has provided apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors and teachers to build up the body of believers to complete unity (Eph. 4:12; 13); that husbands and wives are to live in unity with one another (5:22-33); that children and parents are to live in unity with one another and slaves and masters are to live in unity with one another (Eph. 6:1-9). This leads us right into our subject text. Although Paul’s instruction in our subject text is certainly applicable in all areas of life, let’s make sure to remember that Paul is using it in the context of his instructions to the Ephesians on unity. Let’s now take a close look at our subject text.

Text Analysis

            Paul’s instruction in v. 10 is to be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. We are never expected to fight spiritual battles with our own strength. Instead, “Paul emphasizes the superiority of the power of God and the supremacy of Christ. He demonstrates that believers have access to this power by virtue of their union with Christ, thereby enabling them to resist the vicious attacks of the hostile powers.”[1] The Greek word for “be strong” is translated in the middle voice here in the NIV but it is best read in the passive voice so that it reads “to be made strong.” “The power does not come from the believer but from an external source. This usage is similar to that in Paul’s prayer that believers might be strengthened with power and might through his Spirit (Eph 3:16) and his final exhortation to the Corinthian believers to be strong (1 Cor 16:13).”[2] Now that Paul identifies what we must do, he continues on to tell us how we are to do it.

            In v. 11a Paul tells us that we are to be strengthened by putting on the “full armor of God.” It is interesting imagery Paul uses but perhaps not irrelevant considering Paul is writing this letter while he sits in a Roman prison being guarded by armed guards in full armor. Technically, the text could be understood as armor provided by God, armor worn by God himself or armor that is God himself. However, an argument could be made that it might be any of the three depending on need. “The context clearly implies the first, namely that God provides weaponry for believers. At the same time, in light of the description of armour of Yahweh and his Messiah in Isaiah 11:5; 52:7; 57:19, which stands at the centre of Paul’s sustained imagery throughout the passage (esp. vv. 14-17), it is important to recognize that the armour given to believers is God’s own. The Isaianic references depict the Lord of hosts as a warrior fighting with his own armour in order to vindicate his people. Further, some of the weapons believers are to don, namely, truth, righteousness, and salvation, suggests that we put on God himself, or at least his characteristics…Accordingly, we can conclude that ‘in the end all the armor language is a way to talk about identification with God and his purposes.’”[3] Now that we know the what and how of Paul’s instructions, we can move on to the why.

            In vv. 11b-12, Paul says that the reason we are to be strong in the Lord wearing the full armor of God is so that we can stand firm against the Devil’s evil plans. Paul goes on to explain that We Are At War but not against flesh and blood. Instead, our battle is against a spiritual evil that rules this world by way of rulers, authorities and power as well as spiritual forces from a heavenly realm. It is important to remember that Paul is referring here to a spiritual battle against demonic forces. However, “The devil and his minions are able to rule the lives of men and women who belong to his ‘tyranny of darkness’ (Col. 1:13)—they are called ‘children of disobedience’ at Ephesians 2:2—and the powers exploit culture and social systems in their attempts to wreck the creative and saving work of God.”[4] This concept is often difficult to fully grasp and that’s normal because there is a battle raging in a realm that is visible to the human eye as well as a realm that is only visible to the spiritual eye. Judas is perhaps a good illustration of this. Judas clearly had an expectation of the Jewish messianic figure that Jesus did not conform to. Judas, already inclined toward disobedience and sin, was used by Satan to accomplish what Satan believed was a victory over God’s plan of salvation by betraying Jesus. However, what Satan believed would be a victory turned out to be his ultimate defeat. To the casual observer, none of this was obvious but to those of us who are familiar with the story, we can step back and see how the battle was being waged not just in an earthly realm that involved humanity but how the events were really being directed by the war that was being waged in the spiritual realm between God and the forces of evil trying to subvert God’s plan of salvation for humanity. This earthly realm and spiritual realm make up what is referred to as the “heavenly realm.” “Paul distinguishes between heaven in the ultimate sense of the dwelling place of God, and the heavenly realms which are part of the created order, and which will one day be renewed along with the earth…The heavenly realms, therefore, refer to the spiritual sphere in which God, Christ, the powers of darkness and the believer exist together, and as well as sharing Christ’s reign and receiving the blessings of salvation, the believer is involved in spiritual warfare.”[5] We now understand the what, why and how of Paul’s instructions and so we can move on to the when.

            Paul instructs us that we are to stand strong wearing the full armor of God in order to battle Satan’s forces when the “day of evil” comes. Many have presumed that Paul is speaking in v. 13 of a specific point in time when there will be an ultimate war between good and evil. This is true, but only in part. Paul knows that the “day of evil” is more than a singular point in time marking a cataclysmic event while at the same time including specific events of evil in the life of believers. “Day of evil” might be better understood as the “age of evil.” “It refers to the entire span of the believers’ life or the whole of the present age, which parallels with the ‘evil days’ of 5:16; it refers to critical times in believers’ lives when special diabolical hostility seems strongest.”[6] Combining all these elements, Paul then tells us that we are to take a stand. The force of the text tells us that we are to “dig in our heels” and stand firm.

            Remember that Paul is writing from prison with a personal view of fully armed Roman soldiers. With this imagery so close at hand, Paul begins to use the various components of such armament in vv. 14-17 to illustrate the spiritual weapons at our disposal as we take our stand and dig in our heals against the Devil’s evil assaults. The first article of armor identified by Paul is the belt. This particular belt is not like a belt we would wear today. Yes, it was made of leather that was used to bind loose clothing, but it was not unlike an apron that protected the lower abdomen and thighs of the soldier. This article of the armor provided both protection and made it possible for the rest of the armor to fit more properly—this was an essential element for being prepared for battle. Paul says that we are to put on the belt that is truth. For the believer, truth is an essential element for being prepared for battle. “Believers have girded their waists with God’s objective truth, which in turn has become a part of them. This enables them to be reliable and faithful as God is reliable and faithful. This piece of armor is basic to all other pieces because truth and trustworthiness are basic to all the other qualities that believers need in order to withstand diabolical attacks.”[7] Still in v. 14, Paul describes the next article or armor as the breastplate. It seems pretty obvious that the breastplate covering the vital organs of the soldier is critical in battle as protection against arrows and spears from distant assault and from swords and other lethal blows in hand-to-hand combat. Like the belt, it is a defense part of the armor. Paul refers to the breastplate as “righteousness.” “In this text some regard it as justifying righteousness or a right standing before God, but most regard it as sanctifying or subjective righteousness (1 Cor 1:30), which, of course, has its basis in justifying righteousness. Isaiah 59:17 refers to God putting on his attribute of righteousness as a breastplate. Likewise, in this context believers are, by appropriating God’s righteousness, to act righteously in their daily dealings with God and humankind.”[8] Righteous living with the power of the Spirit’s sanctifying power protects the believer’s heart like a breastplate protects the heart of a soldier.

            V. 15 seems less glamorous in the discussion about battle armor as Paul identifies proper footwear. But footwear was extremely important for the Roman soldier. Unlike the everyday footwear of average citizens that was more like a sandal, “The Roman soldier frequently wore caliga, a half-boot, which was not strictly a weapon but part of his equipment that was used especially in large marches.”[9] For the Roman soldier, proper footwear was crucial in battle and Paul likewise claims that believers must have their feet properly fitted. But in this case, Paul is not speaking of footwear. Instead Paul says that the feet of believers should be fitted with readiness—a readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. “The language has obviously been borrowed from Isaiah 52:7, ‘How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good tidings, who publishes peace’—words which, in a shortened form, are applied by the apostle to those sent to preach the Christian gospel (Rom. 10:15).”[10] It is odd to speak of peace in the context of preparing for battle. But this proclamation for peace is not aimed at the one who wages war against believers. The proclamation of peace is for the benefit of those who are still considered enemies of God because they have not yet accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior. “Christ, who is the embodiment of peace, has made peace through his death, and announced this good news far and wide, to Jew and Gentile alike. Those who have appropriated that peace for themselves have their feet fitted with this ‘readiness’, a preparedness to announce the gospel of peace. Paradoxically, they are prepared to announce the gospel of peace as they engage in a spiritual warfare!”[11]

            Paul continues in v. 16 saying that the believer is to take up the shield of faith. This is not the smallish round shield used by gladiators in hand-to-hand combat. Instead, “Paul has in mind the large shield Roman infantry used to protect their whole bodies. Such shields were four feet tall and two and one-half feet wide and were constructed of leather stretched over wood, reinforced with metal at the top and bottom. Especially if soaked in water, they were effective at stopping burning arrows.”[12] The believer’s faith is this shield. The language Paul uses, “take up,” implies that we are to appropriate God’s promises of protection confident that nothing can harm us behind this mighty shield of faith. The flaming arrows of the Devil are a metaphor for all things that the Devil might throw at us—persecution, doubt, fear, temptation, suffering, confusion or anything else that my derail or demoralize us, even the possibility of death. Safely protected by this shield of faith, we can continue to confidently stand firm in truth and righteousness proclaiming the gospel of peace.

            In v. 17 Paul stays with the language of appropriation when he says we are to “take” the helmet and sword. These are the final two pieces of armor necessary for the battle. The imperative mood suggests a sense of urgency and the middle voice indicates that it is the believer’s responsibility to take up the helmet (v. 17a) and sword (v. 17b). Roman helmets were fairly comprehensive, usually made of bronze and near the middle of the first century were designed to cover the back of the neck area as well. Helmets included protection for the eyes, nose and cheeks as well. It seems clear that Paul is again referring to Isaiah 59 where God is referred to as wearing the “helmet of salvation” and bringing wrath and judgment upon his enemies. Just as the soldier feels secure in the face of battle with head protected, the “Believers’ possession of salvation gives them confidence of safeness during the assaults of the devil.”[13] To this point, the parts of the armor that have been described have all been defensive in nature. But now in v. 17b, we get to the all important offensive instrument of a sword. The language in v. 17b changes where previously the belt=truth, the breastplate=righteousness, the shield=protection and the helmet=salvation. Here, however, the sword is “of the Spirit” or “belonging to the Spirit,” the sword is God’s word (cf. Heb. 4:12) made effective and powerful by the Spirit alone. “In their [Christian] warfare with the powers of darkness, they are to take hold of the word of God, the gospel (cf. 1:13; 6:15), and to proclaim it in the power of the Spirit…What is in view here is not some ad hoc word addressed to Satan, as though what we speak against him will defeat him. Rather, it is the faithful speaking forth of the gospel in the realm of darkness, so that men and women held by Satan might hear this liberating and life-giving word and be freed from his grasp.”[14]

            Paul completes his instructions in v. 18 by admonishing believers to pray in the power of the Spirit. The grammar makes clear that the instruction to pray is not a singular event but a continuous process of praying. Furthermore, Christians are to be attentive to the needs of other Christians and pray for them continuously as well. And why are we to pray continually? Because Satan’s evil schemes and plans are a never ending assault. Therefore, the battle never wanes or ceases. Satan is always on the prowl like a lion seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8) and all the better if it is a Christian! We must remember that the armor of God is not something one retrieves from some kind of armory. Instead, these tools for battle are acquired through prayer and faith. “Satanic wars cannot be won by human energy. Thus, Paul has warned the saints to constantly pray and remain alert, ready to don the helmet of salvation and grasp the sword of the Spirit in order to do battle at a moment’s notice. Neither of these pieces of armor, nor all other pieces, are available as the result of human endeavor.”[15] Prayer is the currency with which we acquire the armor needed to be victorious in our battle against Satan and his hordes. We Are At War! Therefore, do not forsake the admonition to pray for yourself and for all others. Dig in your heels and stand firm with the belt of truth wrapped tightly around your waist; with the breastplate of righteousness always guarding your heart and your feet always ready to advance the gospel of peace to the battlefield of a broken and dying world; hidden behind an impenetrable and indestructible shield of faith; always protecting your mind with the security of a helmet that is your salvation and finally, confidently brandish the Spirit’s razor-sharp sword of God’s word—a sword sharp enough to cut the Devil’s plans into pieces.

Application

            I know this lesson has been detailed and complex with many elements. However, I want to bring us back to the overall theme of Paul’s letter to the Ephesians-unity. Is it really so hard to imagine Satan creating division in order wage a more effective battle? It is a well known military strategy known as “divide-and-conquer!” A single wolf or a pack of wolves will not try to devour an entire herd. Instead they will divide the herd until an opportune victim presents itself. Satan, like the wolf, is an opportunity feeder ever dividing in order to expose the weak. To advance that strategy, he uses men and women, much like he did Judas. Do not be deceived Church! Satan will use men, women, blacks, whites, rich, poor, old, young, parents and children and anyone else in any way necessary to create division. And what is the natural consequence of division? Hatred! Division inevitably spawns hatred and when we hate each other, we cannot love God and when we cannot love God we are separated from God and when we are separated from God we cannot stand against the Devil’s attack. Division will be our ultimate destruction, unless, that is, we take a stand and dig in our heels with God’s strength and reject division, and unless we take our stand using the truth to shine a bright light on the liars who would divide us in any way. However, our lives must reflect the righteousness that comes from God if we hope to have any credibility when we speak the truth. Our feet must always be prepared to advance the gospel of peace that will trample the lies that create division and hatred. We must use our faith as the shield that deflects the lies that are thrown at us—lies that say if we are men then we hate women, lies that say if we are white then we hate blacks, lies that say if we are poor we hate the rich, lies that say if we are old then we hate the young or lies that say if we are children then we hate our parents. These lies are simply Satan’s flaming arrows intended to destroy us. We must lean into the certainty of our salvation with the knowledge that nothing can separate us from God unless we ourselves turn our backs on him through our hatred for one another. We must skillfully wield the sword of the Spirit for it is the word of God that will break down all the walls that divide us. It is interesting to note that during the years when East Germany and West Germany were divided by the Berlin Wall, the respective governments of the two countries, and to some extent its citizens, at best mistrusted one another and at worst disliked one another. However, when the wall was destroyed in 1990 and East Germans and West Germans danced arm-in-arm, a stranger to the scene would not have been able to discern which person belonged to which country. Mistrust and hatred flourished when the wall created division, but when the division was destroyed, mistrust and hatred was defeated.

            Some think that human legislation can remove division from humanity and force people to love and accept one another but this is not possible. Satan is far too powerful to think that some human institution could marshal the strength to wage war against anything that is conceived in the spiritual realm. To complicate matters, many don’t accept the reality that Satan exists, many don’t care that Satan exists and many have no idea what Satan’s warfare even looks like. What combination could be more lethal than unbelief + complacency + ignorance? It is the perfect combination to feed Satan’s insatiable appetite to divide and conquer. We cannot battle Satanic forces with human institutions because We Are At War but not against flesh and blood and the sooner we face that reality, the sooner we will begin to pray continuously that we would be fitted with God’s armor to be able to stand our ground, withstand the assault and fight back with confidence and strength knowing the battle has already been won—Satan was defeated when Jesus’ grave was empty on the third day! Nevertheless, daily we hear the battle cry when Satan uses sinful humanity to created division. Until Jesus’ return, the battle rages on—We Are At War!


[1] Gerald F. Hawthrone, Ralph P. Martin, Daniel G. Reid, eds., Dictionary of Paul and his Letters, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), p. 247.
[2] Harold W. Hoehner, Ephesians, An Exegetical Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2002), pp. 820-821.
[3] Peter T. Obrien, The Letter to the Ephesians, (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1999), p. 463.
[4] Ibid., p. 468.
[5] Hawthorne, et al, eds., DPL, pp. 382-383.
[6] Hoehner, Ephesians, p. 833.
[7] Ibid., p. 840.
[8] Ibid., p. 841.
[9] O’Brien, Ephesians, p. 475.
[10] Ibid.
[11] Ibid., p. 479.
[12] Klyne Snodgrass, Ephesians, The NIV Application Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1996), p. 343.
[13] Hoehner, Ephesians, p. 850.
[14] O’Brien, Ephesians, p. 482.
[15] Hoehner, Ephesians, p. 859.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

If The Money Didn't Matter


Introduction

I read a great story recently about Dr. Russell Dohner that reminded me about a conversation Jesus had with a rich young man. Dr. Dohner is a general practitioner in the small town of Rushville, IL. Population under 4,000 with the median household income of slightly more than $38,000. At 87, the doctor still wakes early every day in order to make his rounds at the local hospital. By late morning he arrives at his office where there are no modern amenities. No computers or fax machines (ok that’s not a modern amenity but you know what I mean). He keeps all his patients’ information handwritten on index cards. Dr. Dohner started his practice in 1955 when the going rate at that time was $2 for an office visit. Can you imagine that? $2 for an office visit to your local doctor! Well times change and Dr. Dohner has had to change his rate to keep up with the times I suppose. Dr. Dohner now charges $5 for an office visit! Yup! Five whole dollars! Dr. Dohner doesn’t accept insurance saying it’s just not worth the bother. His commitment to his calling as a doctor hasn’t been without sacrifice. His wife left him when he was still young and he never remarried. He never really vacations or travels far except for the occasional medical conference. When asked what the point was of becoming a doctor if he wasn’t going to take advantage of the financial benefits that physicians often enjoy, Dr. Dohner said, “I always just wanted to be a doctor to help people with their medical problems and that’s all it’s for.” He goes on to say, “It was never intended to make a lot of money.” Dr. Dohner receives money from a family farm that provides for what he needs and he has no plans to retire.[1]

For those of you who have been reading my lessons, I have often written that if you want to know a person or organization’s motivation for doing something, usually (though not always) all you have to do is follow the money. There’s really nothing wrong with earning money, even lots of money, but would you still do what you are doing today if you earned nothing for it. What would you be doing If The Money Didn’t Matter? What if what you were doing was the thing that was important and the money had nothing to do with it? Would it change the value of what you do? Would it change people’s perception of what you do? Would it change people’s perception of you? This, I believe, is the point Jesus is making in our lesson for this week.

Subject Text

Matthew 19:16-30

16 Now a man came up to Jesus and asked, “Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life?” 17 “Why do you ask me about what is good?” Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, obey the commandments.” 18 “Which ones?” the man inquired. Jesus replied, “‘Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony,
19 honor your father and mother,’ and ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’” 20 “All these I have kept,” the young man said. “What do I still lack?” 21 Jesus answered, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” 22 When the young man heard this, he went away sad, because he had great wealth. 23 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “I tell you the truth, it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. 24 Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” 25 When the disciples heard this, they were greatly astonished and asked, “Who then can be saved?” 26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” 27 Peter answered him, “We have left everything to follow you! What then will there be for us?” 28 Jesus said to them, “I tell you the truth, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. 30 But many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first. (cf. Mark 10:17-31; Luke 18:18-30)

Context

            Jesus has left Galilee and has made his way to the region of Judea which is where Jerusalem and the temple are located. Once there, Jesus begins teaching and as usual, he is followed by large crowds. The crowds are diverse: sick, healthy, young, old, men, women, rich, poor and always the religious leaders lying in wait for an opportunity to condemn Jesus with something he says. Jesus heals the sick as always and makes a specific point that children should not be kept from him so that he can bless them. The specific context of our subject text, however, has to do with a young man who is wealthy. Wealth in ancient Israel, for the Jews, was considered a sign of God’s blessing. In some respect, this was true. However, to build an entire theological system around this premise led to some of the problems of poverty and oppression that Jesus was condemning during his time. It went something like this: Those who were wealthy were respected as people blessed by God and therefore were in a position to become more wealthy. Those who were poor were not blessed by God and perhaps even cursed by God and were therefore oppressed or shunned all the more which exacerbated their impoverished state even more. One of Jesus’ objectives was to change this system of thought to the point of turning it on its head where the first would be last and the least would become the greatest. “While Jesus never looks on possessions per se as evil, for him wealth was not something safe, but a dangerous substance. In many of his sayings it is personified as Mammon (which in the Aramaic of Jesus’ day meant simply ‘possessions’ and could be viewed as evil or neutral, depending on its modifiers) and functions exactly as the idols did in the eyes of ancient Hebrew prophets in that it seductively draws people away from total allegiance to God.”[2] Jesus wanted to demonstrate that it wasn’t wealth that was God’s blessing in their lives, God is the blessing in their lives. Once that seed took root in people’s lives, then they could live as “If The Money Didn’t Matter.”

Text Analysis

            We’re often cynical when we read about someone like this wealthy young man asking Jesus a question in v. 16. The religious leaders are often seen questioning Jesus to see if they can trick him into saying something they can use against him. However, nothing in the text suggests that this young man is anything but sincere in his question. The young man appears to have everything as we will see later in the text. But think about it, maybe there is one thing missing, something he knows intuitively that his money can’t buy, it would appear that he has begun to wonder what happens after this life. Is it really that strange of a question? Perhaps the question is familiar to you. Perhaps it is a question you have asked before or are asking now.

            Jesus starts off v.17a with an odd question when he asks why the young man is asking him about what is “good.” The response seems like a non-sequitur to the young man’s question. The young man was asking about a “good thing” he must do and Jesus’ response is that there is only “One who is good.” The young man’s question was about an act while Jesus’ answer was about a person. Jesus’ is trying to direct the conversation toward God as the One Divine Good and that everything that comes from him is thereby good. Consequently, the Law, given by the Divine Good is therefore good which is precisely why Jesus is leading the young man in v. 17b to obey the commandments.

            In vv. 18-20 is the interaction between the young man and Jesus specifically dealing with the commandments. The young man wants to know which commandments specifically he should obey as though some were more efficacious than others to reach his desired goal of eternal life. Jesus’ answer seems a bit odd as he lists commandment 6, 7, 8, 9, 5 and then the command to love neighbor as self which Jesus uses elsewhere to encapsulate commandments 5-10 (cf. Matt. 22:39; Lev. 19:18). Note that Jesus specifically highlights only the commandments dealing with earthly relationships. It is not that the first four commandments are not also important, on the contrary, they are of paramount importance. However, it would seem that Jesus knew precisely the basis of this man’s issue—he was all words and no actions—actions toward people that reflect what he says he believes about God. There is no material cost in loving God but there is a tremendous material cost in loving and caring for people and this was the barrier upon which the young man would smash himself.

            The young man certainly doesn’t lack confidence when he tells Jesus that he has done all the things Jesus’ has said he should do in v. 20 and wants to know what is still left to do. There’s no reason to think he is lying or disingenuous, and Jesus does not condemn his answer. Instead in v. 21 Jesus drives home the lesson he is trying to teach the young man when he tells him to sell everything he has and give the money to the poor and come follow him. This will give him what he is looking for—the prize of eternal riches. Jesus’ instruction is consistent throughout the Gospels that “If one has more than enough, the best thing to do with it is to give it to those who have less than enough and so invest in heaven…the call of Jesus to radical generosity is at one level an individual decision, but its context is that of a call to community in line with the function of voluntary communities within his society.”[3] I know this particular interaction relates specifically to possessions but can you see how this principle is really bigger than just possessions? “If money stands in the way of a person’s committing his or her life to Christ, Jesus will make the identical demands on that individual as he did on this young man. If the obstacle is something else, the demands will vary. But many who have claimed to trust in Christ are still unprepared to serve him will all their possessions. True Christian stewardship will examine mortgages, credit, giving, insurance, investments, and a whole host of areas of life not often brought under Christ’s lordship.”[4] It is important to remember that the young man is asking Jesus for the way to eternal life and Jesus’ instruction to divest himself of his possessions is not the ultimate objective. No, Jesus’ final instruction is for the young man, once free of his possessions, was to come follow Him. Selling everything and giving his money to the poor would not have accomplished his goal of gaining eternal life as even the most committed unbeliever can do the same thing. Therefore, it is only the commitment to follow Jesus that reaches the objective of eternal life. For the young man to divest himself of his possessions eliminates the primary obstacle in his life to reaching that objective. V. 22 confirms the obstacle to eternal life for this young man—his possessions and wealth. The young man leaves with his head down unwilling to do what Jesus asks even though he says he has kept all the commandments of the Law. Jesus demonstrates the radical nature of being a true believer. “The kingdom demands more than merely keeping many commandments; if we recognize Christ as our King, we must surrender to him everything we have and are. Whether he then allows us to use some of what he has given us is his choice. Disciples do not always lose all possessions upon conversion—but they lose all ownership of them, for they themselves belong to a new ruler.”[5]

In v. 23-24 Jesus makes a proclamation that should give us all pause to think about our own claims of commitment to the lordship of Christ over our lives. When Jesus says that it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God, do we consider that he might be talking about us or do we deceive ourselves into thinking that we aren’t like the rich young man at all? You must judge this for yourself but do so with complete honesty and sobriety because you probably don’t want to leave that judgment up to Christ lest you be found unfaithful and dishonest with respect to your claim to be a follower of Jesus Christ.

Vv. 25-27 reflect the shift from the prevailing, devolved thought and theology at the time of Jesus that wealth and possessions were directly proportionate to God’s blessing and favor and by extension reflected, to a certain degree, who was included in God’s kingdom. What seemed to be forgotten was the clear Old Testament teaching that righteousness was the result of belief and faith in God while wealth and possessions were incidental to that (cf. Gen. 15:6; Rom. 4:3). Again, Jesus upends what the disciples believed about those who were favored by God much like he did in his Sermon on the Mount—the first would be last, the poor would inherit the kingdom , the poor are blessed, etc. This is reflected in their question of who would be saved. Jesus’ response is telling when he says that with man it is impossible but with God all things are possible. In other words, humanity can do nothing to save itself—regardless of the degree of its wealth. Only God can save! Peter, not one to mix words, asks what I’m sure most of us would be thinking but afraid to ask in v. 27 asking in essence; since we’ve given up everything to follow you, ‘What’s in it for us?’

Jesus responds in vv. 28-30 by indicating the reward that awaits his disciples will be the honored position of sitting on twelve thrones judging the twelve tribes of Israel. Furthermore, all those who have sacrificed family, friends, and possessions will receive a reward of a hundred-fold in their place. Well at least this is the way many read Jesus’ answer. What they fail to read is that Jesus’ promise is given in the context of the life to come not this life. In this life, we are called to give up all the things that distract us from God or claim any allegiances that belong to God. We are called to a life of sacrifice. “Those who deny themselves in the present in following the teaching of Jesus may be sure of the dramatic reversal when the eschatological era comes in all its fullness.”[6]

Application

            Dr. Craig Blomberg writes, “This entire episode should challenge First-World Christians, virtually all of whom are among the wealthiest people in the history of the world, to radical changes in their personal and institutional spending.”[7] I certainly agree with Dr. Blomberg but I think we need to be careful that we don’t fall into the trap of legalism by saying that if we just spend our money the right way then we can earn God’s favor. This too is the wrong mentality. The “radical changes” that Dr. Blomberg refers to can only occur when a person is changed radically from within which is the work of the Holy Spirit. This radical change will affect not only the way we perceive the value of our possession but the way we use them as well. Don’t misunderstand Jesus’ teaching in our subject text. Many have used this text to justify an ascetic life. However, asceticism and austerity for its own sake is just as bad as prosperity and wealth for its own sake. We find that Paul tells Timothy that it is the “love” of money that is the root of all kinds of evil and not money itself (1 Tim. 6:10). Jesus condemned people’s allegiance to wealth or the exclusive pursuit of wealth even as he acknowledges the economic realities of the world. In fact, Jesus applauds the wise use of resources in his parable of the talents (See previous post—Title: The Tragedy of a Buried Talent; Label: Pastoral Care; Date: 10/31/12). As is usually the case, Jesus’ teaching is deeper than simply renouncing all worldly wealth as a demonstration of faithfulness or believing that worldly wealth is a result of divine blessing and a reward for faithfulness. The purpose of Jesus’ teaching is to reach deep within us and pull out the thing or things that prevent us from being fully committed to following him and show us those things in order to force us to decide what we want. So how do we live in the tension of a world bathed in wealth or the pursuit of wealth and the desire to be faithful to Jesus? We get a glimpse of the answer in the life of Dr. Dohner who recognizes the need for a certain degree of wealth in order to be able serve others for a nominal fee with his gift of being a physician. We can observe in Dr. Dohner’s medical practice and attitude someone who practices medicine as If The Money Didn’t Matter. This can be our attitude as well but first we must make an honest and frank self-examination of our motivation with respect to wealth and possessions: How would you live your life If The Money Didn’t Matter? What would you give If The Money Didn’t Matter? How would you serve If The Money Didn’t Matter? Would you remain silent to the injustices of our world If The Money Didn’t Matter? Where would you go to serve If The Money Didn’t Matter? How much could you demonstrate your love for your neighbor If The Money Didn’t Matter? Would you share the truth of Jesus Christ If The Money Didn’t Matter? How could God use you If The Money Didn’t Matter? So the point is not how much or how little money a person may have. The point is the degree to which a person can live life according to their profession as a follower of Jesus Christ in a world obsessed with wealth and possessions as If The Money Didn’t Matter.


[1] Associated Press, 87-year old doctor charges $5 per visit, http://www.foxnews.com/health/2012/11/14/87-year-old-doctor-charges-5-per-visit/, (accessed November 16, 2012).
[2] Joel B. Green, Scot McKnight, I. Howard Marshall, eds., Dictionary of Jesus and the Gospels, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1992), p. 705.
[3] Joel B. Green, et al, eds., DJG, pp. 706; 708.
[4] Craig L. Blomberg, Matthew, The New American Commentary, (Nashville, TN: Broadman Press, 1992), p. 299.
[5] Craig S. Keener, Matthew, The IVP New Testament Commentary Series, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1997), p. 301.
[6] Donald A. Hagner, Matthew 14-28, Word Biblical Commentary, (Dallas, TX: Word Books, 1995), p. 566.
[7] Blomberg, Matthew, NAC, p. 301.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

The Power of Love and Submission


Introduction

            There’s an old parable about a cobbler’s wife that goes to her pastor for some marriage advice. After exchanging the usual formalities, the cobbler’s wife says, “Pastor, I’m having trouble with my husband and I just don’t think I’m in love with him anymore and I’m wondering if I should leave him.” The old Pastor considered the woman’s words with some confusion. He had known the cobbler for quite some time and even performed the couple’s marriage many years ago and was under the impression that the cobbler was a very good man. Nevertheless, he conceded to himself, ‘no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors.’ So before offering counsel to the woman, the old pastor asked the woman a few questions. He asked, “Does your husband abuse you?” “Oh no” she said. He would never do that. He has always been gentle with me.” “Does he then indulge in too much alcohol?” asked the pastor. “No, he doesn’t really like alcohol.” “Is he lazy or slothful?” asked the old man. “Oh gosh no” said the woman! “He’s up at 6:00 every morning and doesn’t get home until after 6:00 every night except Sundays.” “Is he stingy with his money, making you do without the things you need?” The woman replied, “No, he usually gives me almost all the money he makes every week to pay the bills. He does keep some every once in a while that he uses to buy flowers or a gift for me” she added. “Well then, has been unfaithful to you; committed adultery?” Asked the pastor. “No!” Said the woman in an almost angry tone. Adding, “He hardly even looks at other women.” The pastor was quite puzzled by now but he had one last question. “Is your husband harsh or abusive with the children?” “No, no” said the woman. “He absolutely cherishes the children. He would never do anything to hurt the children.” The old pastor was quiet for a long time. Finally, the woman grew uncomfortable with the silence and asked him what he thought she should do. He looked at her lovingly and said, “I think you should go home and beg your husband’s forgiveness for your hard heart and then thank God everyday for the gift of a wonderful husband.”

            The story has been around a long time and it makes me smile. At this point I’m not sure if anyone knows if the story is real or not but it isn’t really that hard to imagine is it? In a society where at least 50% of first time marriages fail and nearly 80% of second time marriages fail, most of us know someone whose only complaint about their marriage is that they’re either bored or just don’t feel like they love their spouse any longer. There’s no infidelity, abuse, or neglect. In fact, it really just seems like the marriage has become an inconvenient arrangement. Oh I see that I neglected to mention that the failure statistics I stated above are the same for believers and unbelievers! Certainly, there are marriages that involve, infidelity, abuse and neglect and I’ll address those at the end but for the purposes of this lesson, I want to look at the biblical model of love and submission between a husband and wife.

Subject Text

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Context

            Let’s look at the context of our subject text to get a better understanding of Paul’s purpose behind this text. We don’t have to look far to find Paul’s overarching theme for his letter to the church in Ephesus—unity. In Chapter 4, Paul encourages his readers to “Be humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” (Eph. 4:2). He goes on to say that they should, “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Eph. 4:3). Paul points out that it is by God’s plan that some in the Church are apostles, some are prophets, some are evangelists, some are pastors and still others are teachers (Eph. 4:11). However, the end result for them all is to prepare the Church for service and to facilitate the unity of the Body of Christ that is the Church. Thereafter, Paul reminds his readers where they had come from and where they are now through their belief in Christ—once sinful and now made new, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness (Eph. 4:24). The end of chapter 4 hints back to the overall theme of unity when Paul instructs his readers not to let anything unwholesome come out of their mouths but only what is helpful in building others up according to what they need. Paul tells them to get rid of all their bitterness, anger, rage, brawling and slander along with any other malice that resides within and among them. Finally, Paul says to replace these things with kindness, compassion and forgiveness (Eph. 4:29-32) which will no doubt produce the unity Paul is hoping for. At the beginning of chapter 5, Paul provides his readers with a brief outline of how they should live as children of light. They are to reject sinful living such as sexual immorality, greed, idolatry or any kind of impurity. Paul again comes around to his theme of unity when he says that they are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Eph. 5:21). But Paul doesn’t leave us guessing about what that looks like in the reality of our lives. Instead, in the remainder of chapter 5, including our subject text, and the beginning of chapter 6, Paul instructs the Ephesians, and by extension us, how we are to live lives of unity as husbands and wifes, children and parents and employees and employers. Of course Paul is not saying that these principals apply only to these relationships but are illustrative of the way we should approach all our relationships. But, for the purpose of this week’s lesson, I want to look at Paul’s instruction on the very special relationship that exists between husband and wife. Let’s take a closer look at our subject text.

Text Analysis

            Paul instructs wives to submit to their husbands in v. 22 in the same way as they would to the Lord. I already know that this text makes some women crazy so let me address it grammatically. The word that translates “submit” is in the imperative mood but in the middle voice. Why is this important? Because some believe it is in the passive voice. This is problematic because it conveys the idea that a wife must submit as one does to a dictator. However, we can reject this interpretation because Paul says that wives should submit to their husbands the way they would submit to the Lord and nowhere in scripture do we find where anyone is “forced” to submit to Christ. Instead, “the middle definitely connotes that the subject [wife] volitionally exercises the action of submission, an act of a free agent.”[1] Paul goes on to explain that wives should submit to their husbands because husbands carry the responsibility of being the head of the relationship. I can already hear women howling, especially women here in America. Let me just say: relax! There is nothing in the text to suggest in any way that there is a qualitative distinction being made here between husband and wife. Remember Paul’s theme of unity. The focus of this text is not authority it is unity. Scripture makes clear that there is no qualitative difference between men and women. “Ephesians 5:23 does not focus on authority, but on self-giving love of both Christ and the husband. ‘Head’ in this context suggests ‘responsibility for.’ The husband has a leadership role, though not in order to boss his wife or use his position as privilege. Just as Jesus redefined greatness as being a servant (Matt. 20:26-27), Paul redefines being head as having responsibility to love, to give oneself, and to nurture. A priority is placed on the husband, but, contrary to ancient society, it is for the benefit of the wife.”[2] Paul completes this section in v.24 with the analogy that a wife should submit to her husband in all things just as the Church submits to Christ in all things. It isn’t by accident that only three of the twelve verses of this section deal with instructions for the wife. If the husband is going to be assigned to the position of “head” in the marriage relationship then it stands to reason that the bulk of Paul’s instruction focuses on the husband’s responsibilities.

            V. 25a says almost everything that needs to be said on the topic of the husband’s duty to his wife. Husbands are to love their wives in the same what that Christ loves the Church and gave himself up for the Church. There are no conditions on this command! There were no conditions for Christ’s sacrifice for the Church. Remember that Christ gave himself for the Church “while we were still sinners” (Rom. 5:8)! I don’t want to get too far away from the text we just finished about the instruction to wives before I say to husbands that this text stands alone; whether or not your wife accepts her responsibilities as outlined in vv. 22-24, you still have a duty to be faithful to do your part as outlined in vv. 25-33—no exceptions! Having said that, the instructions in vv. 25b-27 are a little difficult to understand so let’s break them down.

            We have to be careful with vv. 25b-27 that we don’t assume that a husband can do for his wife precisely what Christ did for the Church from an eternal perspective. A husband cannot save his wife, he cannot sanctify his wife, he cannot make is wife holy or blameless, nor cause her to be without blemish, stain or wrinkle. Instead, this language is better understood in the context of ancient marriage ceremonial terms and Old Testament imagery of the relationship between Israel and God. This would make sense since the text centers on the relationship of husbands and wives and Paul specifically references marriage a few verses later. “The prenuptial bath in Jewish marital customs reflected the imagery of God’s marriage to Israel related in Ezek 16. At the time of her birth, Israel was in a pitiable state, lying in blood, uncleansed by the washing of water, and was abhorred by all (16:4-6). When she grew up God entered into a covenant with her and bathed her with water, washed off the blood, anointed her with oil, and clothed her with the finest materials, making her exceedingly beautiful, fit to be a queen (16:8-14)…Analogous to this bridal bath, the present verse relates that Christ’s death on behalf of the church was to cleanse her by the ‘washing of the water.’”[3] It is most important to see in these verses the depth to which a husband’s love must reach. A husband’s love for his wife, “which is modeled on Christ’s love for the church, means [he] will be willing to make even the ultimate sacrifice of life itself.”[4]

            Paul continues to illustrate a husband’s love for his wife in vv. 28-30 when he writes that a husband should love his wife no less than he loves himself and cares for himself and his own body. Paul then writes something very interesting and insightful when he writes that the man who loves his wife, loves himself. This is an implicit image of husband and wife as one flesh that Paul makes explicit in later verses. “Husband and wife, then, are regarded as one person, a single entity. Accordingly, the husband’s obligation to love his wife as his own body is not simply a matter of loving someone else just like he loves himself. It is, in fact, to love himself.”[5] Again, in the same way that Christ cares for the Church, his bride, a husband should care for his bride. The admonition for the husband to feed and care for his wife is purposely intended to be specific in terms of meeting a wife’s physical needs represented by command to “feed” her and more generally any other action that would benefit her holistically represented by the command to “care” for her.

            Paul begins v. 31 with a phrase that we need to clarify when he says “for this reason.” To what reason is Paul referring? Paul doesn’t forewarn us, but since this text has previously been bathed in Old Testament teaching on the union between a man and woman, he makes the jump all the way back to the original conception of a relationship between a husband and wife. Paul quotes Genesis 2:24 and the very first husband and wife. At that time, Eve was literally a part of Adam’s body—being created from his rib. And it is “for this reason” that a man is united to his wife as though they were one because at one time, they were, in fact, one. Also, it fits nicely with the previous verses when Paul says that the Church is a member of Christ’s body, which body includes the husband and wife. It is also “for this reason” that a husband and wife are united as one because they exist as part of one body in Christ.

            In v. 32 Paul tells us that this is a “mystery” and that he says he is talking about the Church and Christ. But what is the “mystery” Paul is referring to? When Paul uses the term “mystery” he’s not referring to something unknowable but instead to something that would have been hidden if God had not chosen to reveal it. “The mystery is not any particular marriage of marriage itself; it is the union of Christ and the church which is reflected in a truly Christian marriage. Such a mystery is indeed ‘profound’…A Christian marriage, as envisaged in this paragraph, is to ‘reveal the mystery of Christ loving his responsive church. Such a marriage bears living witness to the meaning of the ‘two becoming one’.”[6]

            Paul completes this section of verses in v.33 as a kind of summation of what he just finished saying about husbands and wives by reiterating, in the case of the husband, that he should love his wife in the same way that he loves himself. However, in the case of the wife, Paul adds a slightly different twist to his original instruction to the wife that she should submit to her husband. Here, Paul says that the wife should “respect” her husband. Certainly “respect” falls within the context of submission but why the seeming inconsistency when his instruction to the husband is quite consistent with his previous exhortation to husbands? Here Paul is using his statement to wives to close a parenthetical that started in v. 21. There, Paul instructs his readers to submit to one another out of “reverence” for Christ. In v. 33 Paul uses the same word in the Greek which is translated “respect” in the NIV and “fear” in other translations. But the sense that is really being conveyed is the idea that wives should be in “awe” of their husbands for the position they hold. “The idea of ‘to respect’ is too mild a term.”[7] From the beginning of our subject text to the end we see Paul illustrate that husbands should treat their wives like Christ treats the Church (i.e. love, care, feed, instruct, sacrifice, etc.) and wives should treat their husbands the way the Church treats Christ (i.e. submit, respect, revere, fear, awe, etc.). Therein is a beautiful image of relationship that results in perfect unity which takes us back to Paul’s overall theme.

Application

            This text has been used through the years to justify countless abuses and ridiculously unbiblical behavior by both husbands and wives—behavior that generates hatred and resentment not love and submission and certainly not unity! No one can honestly say that Paul’s instruction to husbands and wives in our subject text isn’t the pinnacle of unity in a marriage relationship. Think about it: What would be the divorce rate in the Church if husbands and wives obeyed this teaching? Of course sin is always part of every relationship but even then, Paul reminds us that we should replace all our animosity toward one another with kindness, compassion and forgiveness. What kind of a witness would the Church be to the world if husbands and wives practiced Paul’s instructions and virtually eliminated divorce in the Church? Something to think about. In this particular text, Paul’s instructions are pretty practical and easy to understand so rather tell you what I think you should do, I want to tell you about some friends of mine whose marriage will illustrate what I want to say.

            Last week, my friend, Dawna, posted the following as her Facebook status: “Today I am thankful that my husband is a man of God who wisely leads our family, provides for our needs and our wants, loves being involved in our lives, listens to me when I ramble and loves me unconditionally.” Can I just say that this is such a beautiful picture of exactly what Paul was trying to convey in our subject text. Clearly Dawna has followed Paul’s instruction to submit to her husband since she acknowledges his Godly leadership. And nothing shows greater respect, reverence or awe than a wife’s public affirmation of her husband. Let me just say that Dawna isn’t some quiet, frumpy housewife who believes that Christian wives should be seen and not heard. I can testify to this personally as I have been on the pointy end of her rapier wit on more than one occasion. Instead, Dawna is a beautiful, smart, articulate woman who understands who she is as a child of God, a mother of two young girls and the wife of her husband, Chris. I first met Dawna and Chris a few years ago during a mission trip to Mexico. They led a group from their church down to Mexico to build a home for a poor Mexican family. My girls and I were on volunteer staff for the mission agency building the homes and we were assigned to Chris and Dawna’s church group for their first time building a home through the agency. We all became quick friends and have been blessed to be able to work with them in subsequent years to build more homes in Mexico. I can say that based on my observation during some difficult times in Mexico, that Chris is precisely the way Dawna describes him. Chris is a mountain of a man; a former professional football player who could snap me like an old, dry twig. Yet he approached his leadership task in Mexico with tremendous humility. I watched as Chris always deferred to others with more experience yet was always in complete control of the entire group on a macro level. Through all the stresses of managing a group in a foreign country, very hard work, uncomfortable weather conditions, not much sleep and group members that weren’t always cooperative, Chris always treated everyone and especially Dawna with the greatest respect and tenderness. I never saw him order her around, speak harshly to her or take her hard work as a partner in the overall venture for granted. You learn things about people during missionary ventures that you wouldn’t learn in everyday life. You learn who people really are. If you were to meet Chris, you’d first be intimidated by his size and personality—both big! But I’ve seen a part that I’ll bet many probably don’t get the chance to see. I’ve seen a big man, powerful enough to overcome any obstacle, nevertheless be overcome by emotion and unable to hold back tears when it came time to present the keys of a newly built house completed by his group to a poor family living, to that point, in a cardboard shack. Again, this is a beautiful picture of Paul’s instructions for husbands. It is clear that Chris loves his wife dearly and would do anything for her. Together, Chris and Dawna are a great illustration of what is possible in a Christian marriage. But there’s something more important that Chris and Dawna provide through their marriage—a witness! Remember what I said earlier? Their Christian marriage bears witness to the “profound mystery” of the unity of Christ and his Church. It is a powerful image. It is The Power of Love and Submission. I’m sure that Chris and Dawna are only interested in being faithful to Christ and don’t want or expect recognition for that. But most of you know someone just like them in your churches. Please take some time to thank them for their faithfulness to one another and to Christ (maybe even buy them a cup of coffee). For you pastors out there, please lift these people up as examples in your church so others can seek them out and begin to follow their example. Finally, I want to address a couple of other issues related to this week’s lesson.

Although this lesson focuses specifically on marriage relationships, it contains universal principals that can be applied to all relationships. Specifically, when relationships are based in love, sacrifice and service, they don’t find space for division and strife and the result is always unity. This is true in all relationships.

It is important to remember that even though the commands for wives and husbands respectively are unconditional, no scripture anywhere gives license for abuse. Although husbands are often the victims of abuse from their wives, it is usually wives who most often suffer in the cases of spousal abuse. Therefore, without neglecting the pain suffered by some husbands, I want to speak directly to wives who live in fear of being abused. Please protect yourself. Our subject text’s instruction for wives to submit to their husbands is not given in the context of an abusive relationship even if the relationship in view is not always ideal. Unconditional obedience is not analogous to uninformed obedience. Protect yourself by removing yourself from a truly abusive environment if possible. I’m not talking about divorce, I’m simply talking about creating distance for the sake of safety. I do not advocate divorce even as I recognize, as did Jesus, that it is a reality in the lives of many people. Having said that, I caution you to not deceive yourselves with the world’s definition of “abuse.” In our “everybody’s-a-victim” society, we can make a case for abuse for virtually anything that offends us. Wives and husbands should not use the claim of abuse as a convenient excuse to avoid being obedient to the command for wives to submit to their husbands and for husbands to love their wives all in accordance with our subject text.

Also, nothing in our subject text takes into consideration the consequences of infidelity in a marriage relationship. This topic is an entire lesson unto itself so I don’t want to oversimplify it. However, Jesus spoke about this specifically and stated that infidelity was the one exception permitting divorce (Matt. 5:32). However, divorce is not mandated only permitted. Consider Jesus’ overall mission to the world—forgiveness and reconciliation. Although not always possible, this should, perhaps, be the goal of all marriages that have experienced the intense pain of infidelity. In any event, divorce is an extremely serious matter particular in the case of a Christian marriage. Please seek God’s direction, sound pastoral counsel and marriage counseling before seeking a divorce. Christian marriage is a profoundly sacred unity and its dissolution is not something to be taken lightly.


[1] Donald A. Hagner, Ephesians, An Exegetical Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2002), p. 731.
[2] Klyne Snodgrass, Ephesians, The NIV Application Commentary, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1996), p. 295.
[3] Hagner, Ephesians, p. 754.
[4] Peter T. O’Brien, The Letter to the Ephesians, (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company, 1999), p. 420.
[5] Ibid., p. 427.
[6] O’Brien, Ephesians, p. 434.
[7] Hagner, Ephesians, p. 783.